This is a series on personal growth and development. I believe in order to be good teachers, parents, and spouses we must first develop ourselves. Personal development is not selfish. The better we are and the happier we are, the more we have to offer others in this world. So I am here to help you however I can. I know this is a childcare training and homeschool training website but our focus for a little while will be you.
I listened to a training this morning again from Mel Robbins because I think she is the Rockstar of building confidence which she defines is a skill not an inherent quality. You build confidence by doing not thinking. I have been guilty of studying and researching and mentally preparing for greatness like releasing a new class but my fear of not getting it perfect keeps me from doing anything at all. Share with me what is holding you back.
Self-doubt is a behavior – not a belief. Self-doubt is a decision not to try. Have you ever thought of it like that before? I hadn’t. I believed it was an internal belief but in reality it is a fear to act. We are all afraid of something. We like the little ones we care for are afraid of being laughed at or not fitting in. We model this behavior for them. We don’t ask for that raise we think we deserve because we don’t want to feel embarrassed or any discomfort if they say no. We won’t get what we don’t ask for. In fact, I had this happen just yesterday. I was doing billing for my husband’s construction company and our partner said, “Oh they won’t pay for that anymore.” Well I used one of Mel’s strategies, 5-4-3-2-1 just do it and sent an email justifying the bill and was told “sure invoice it.” If I had listened to my fears and to our partner, we would have thrown 1600 dollars away. Stop doubting yourself and just do something.
You may be thinking, “Oh, I could help parents with the morning routine and make the transition to the classroom so much easier. “ But you stop yourself because you don’t want to sound stupid or upset the “normal” way of doing things. Greatness doesn’t come from following the beaten path. You must get out of your own way and stop thinking and start doing. Are we going to make bad choices or mistakes? Yes probably but sitting there doing NOTHING won’t get you anywhere.
Mel describes the four traps in this video that hold us back from being what God designed us to be. Tune in tomorrow to learn more about the four traps. In the meantime, you can watch Mel’s video on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/SUCCESSmagazine/videos/10155655520178555/